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SELF-CONTROL EXPLAINED AND TEMPER AND PRIDE: OBSTACLES TO HUMAN DEVELOPMENT


Preached At THE HOUSEHOLD OF GOD ONITSHA By APOSTLE PETER ODOEMENA THE SON OF MAN “THE ROCK OF AGES” © BRIDE OF CHRIST MINISTRY WORLD-WIDE

Section One
SELF-CONTROL EXPLAINED

CHAPTER 1
Introduction
The general overview of self-control might be misconstrued for self-discipline. These two are interrelated but they do not mean the same thing.

2.          Self-control is one’s ability and will-power to control reflex impulses. By reflex impulses, I mean the unconscious and anxious moments that confronts man on a daily basis.
3.          Perhaps few examples will help to explain better. An innocent man, whose reputation is suddenly attacked in a disgraceful, dehumanising and humiliating manner, is prone to react in self-defence.
4.          As a human being, something is bound to take place in him because he cannot afford to be disenchanted and disenfranchised at the same time. He has to react; otherwise, he might be considered a base human being.
5.          He might be tempted unconsciously to react even though he never intended to do so, but the situation has taken him unawares. Unconsciously and anxiously he may fire back in self-defence and quarrelling would ensure.
6.          Equally, the site of free food and drinks is almost irresistible for a glutton. He hardly knows when he joins in merry-making even without being invited.
7.          Again, a football fan or one who is fascinated about politics can easily be •swept away with discussions bothering on such subjects. Even though his opinion may not be sought, he finds it compelling to air his views with animated gestures and eloquent arguments to buttress his opinions. His action was not pre-planned. It was an unconscious action, a reflex action.
8.          An individual’s ability to control these reflex impulses that confronts him on a daily basis is called self-control. Discipline on the other hand has to deal with thoughts that lead to action. Discipline is the ability to control and subdue all negative thoughts, feelings, emotions, etc, that leads to negative actions.
9.          Self-control has nothing to do with thoughts. Pre-meditation is not involved. Often times we are told to control our appetite, desires, temper, etc, because they are impulses within our control.
10.      In summary, self-control means one’s willpower which can be exercised consciously and unconsciously in every situation. In other words, the individual should have a default attitude for every situation. Self-consciousness must be a watchword. You cannot afford to forget yourself.

CHAPTER 2
YOU HAVE A REPUTATION TO PROTECT
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here is always an unguided hour in the human life during which costly mistakes are made. Unguided utterances and behaviours can be depicted at such moments.
2.          No vehicle drives itself neither can a car steering wheel itself. A driver is always in control of a vehicle and directs it from start to its destination. The essence of the car is to help the driver achieve his goal faster and more conveniently.
3.          Therefore, the driver must remain conscious and anxious. Once consciousness is lost, the vehicle automatically begins to drive the driver and obviously the end is disaster and destruction.
4.          A vehicle that is in control of the driver dictates the pace, direction, and destination of the trip. The reverse is the case, if the driver is in control. This allegory symbolizes the individual and his impulses.
5.          Understanding human nature is impossible without a good understanding of self-control. Self-control is nothing but recognizing one’s self, personality, status, and whose interest one represent. Once the individual lacks the understanding of self-control, his inordinate impulse could damage his records and future.
6.          One who represents an eminent government official at a function stands as the very official. Whatever views he expresses and all his actions at such functions are attributed directly to the distinguished personality he represents.
7.          Recognizing this therefore, he must respect his personality, for it will be disastrous if he misbehaves or make unguided statements.
8.          It is lack of understanding of self-control from this perspective that makes people drag their reputations in the mud in their homes, work places, etc. Since they fail to recognize who they are and whose interest they represent, they are prone to mar their confessions by returning fire for fire without control.
9.          It is the nature of man to return fire for fire, because he always fears that if he does not retort, he will be considered a coward or a weakling.
10.      It is recorded that Jesus said in the beatitudes, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God.” However, the individual must first be at peace with himself before being at peace with anyone else.
11.      This does not mean we would not feel hurt by words, actions, or reactions from others. As human beings, we must feel the impact of the hash reactions, but it is the ability to control the rising temper, the impulse that pushes one into retribution or negative action that is called self-control.
12.      Armed with this understanding, it becomes possible to live in peace with anyone, because man cannot live in isolation. Interactions must exist whether we like it or not, and no man can live a life so good and pure to exempt him from hatred from his fellow man. How then can we imagine remaining unspotted in the midst of such people without self-control?
13.      A man without self-control makes regrettable mistakes. It leads to very rash reactions, which causes regret. Conversely, one with self-control benefits a lot, because it places such individual on top of the world. He subjects people to apologetic conditions though the apologies may not be tendered orally, yet the attitudes of his adversaries will reveal how sorry they are for their misbehaviours.
14.      This is notable especially when it involves a senior and a junior. The former may be too proud to say, “I am sorry” but will indirectly apologise by being softer to signify his regret for his mistakes.
15.      Jesus preached self-control in his own way when he said, “If anyone strikes you on the right cheek, turn the other. If anyone wants to sue you and take your undershirt, let him have your coat also. If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.”


CHAPTER 3
MASTER YOUR IMPULSES
Self-control makes you a master over your impulses. You are the commander of your actions and reactions. Nothing happens around you that is a mistake.
2.          It happened because you allowed it, but not because it went out of your control. You may want to use provocation to prove a point, but avoid it because of the repercussions.
3.          A master over his impulses does not lend credence to false accusations on his person by going about to canvass his defence.
4.          Self-control teaches him that the most effective way to render the accusations ineffective and disarm his opponent is by living a life that will cause people to disbelieve the evil reports about him.
5.          For when they scrutinize and weigh him in their own balance and see no evidence to buttress the report, the opposing party has become humiliated and. is subjected to an apologetic state. He is sent into hiding in shame for he has lost both enemies and friends.
6.          The level of shame and ridicule he is subjected to will be by far greater than what he wanted to achieve. This is the power of self-control!
7.          No matter how one defines his objectives and priorities, as long as he has no power over himself, to drive himself; his definition is useless. It is like a man who is anxious to make the best of his life and has well-defined objectives.
8.          However, he squanders his earnings on whatever appeals to his appetite. Will he ever accomplish his objectives? Has he really defined his objectives at all?
9.          The power of decision is the power of life, the power of achievement, or the power of success. That is why I maintain that no man has the right to take a decision until he has the will power to implement that decision even if it is contrary to his long established lifestyle.
10.      A man is known by his ability to take strong decisions that will affect his lifestyle and abide by them, come what may. A feeble minded fellow should riot take decisions at all because he cannot abide by his decision at all.
11.      Accordingly, it is written in the Bible, “Lord who shall dwell in your tabernacle? Who shall dwell on your holy hill? He that swears to his own hurt and does not change.”
12.      Self-control is the origin of life. That is why any man without it is a miniature human being; one that operates below base levels of human behaviours or a beast.
13.      Therefore, before delving into understanding human behaviour or human development, begin first to improve on your personality skills to establish the act that you are a human being and not a miniature human being.
14.      Convince all and sundry, including yourself, that you are not a beast. This is where life begins.
15.      Recall your reactions to situations and certain circumstances you find yourself consciously and unconsciously before acquiring this knowledge, would you not agree that you have operated below base level of human behaviour?
16.      With this new acquired knowledge, it now becomes possible to avoid some mistakes you made which led you into tendering apologies. Remember, when you tender apology, you become inferior. Developing self-control makes you avoid tendering apologies.
17.      An individual with self-control reduces the level of enmities around him because he is the least offended when he is expected to get offended. Provocations that should evoke sharp reactions from him leave him unruffled and more placid.
18.      Self-control demands recognising who you are, whose interest you represent, and recognising. the person you interact with. Ascertain whether the person is above, below, or on equal level with you. Also, recognise what the present situation calls for.
19.      A provocative situation calls for peace; a joyous situation calls for support; a sorrowful condition calls for comfort; a dejected and rejected condition, calls for motivation; etc. The individual’s understanding of the situation determines his approach towards it.
20.      Remember that greatness is always hidden in simplicity. The simplicity of this message makes it easy to overlook. It is a simple fact of life, which when considered from its outward appearance, is so simple anyone can think of imitating it, yet it is impossible to imitate.
21.      A simple character is the most difficult thing to imitate. Any man can develop self- control only if he will, but this is made possible only when he sees the necessity, wisdom, and benefits therein.
22.      There is wisdom in simplicity. A man that has self-control is always courageous. He is never amazed. Nothing takes him by surprise because he expects the best always, and he hopes and also prepares for the worst. No situation he finds himself puts him off.
23.      He knows how to adapt in times of need and plenty. He is adaptable and blends to all situations.

CHAPTER 4
DEVELOP YOUR POTENTIALS
Self-control plays a vital role in management of resources — it helps to harness money, time, and human labour or human power. Whatever potentials the individual posses, it cannot be effectively and efficiently managed without self-control.
2.          The individual that lacks self-control places money first, but a man with self-control places human development first. For it is easier to acquire money than to develop a human being and without development of a human being acquisition of money is useless.
3.          This is why people get money, but missed it because the individual has not been developed and the first step in developing a human being is self-control.
4.          This is in other for him to begin to realize the essence of his existence; to know whether he is placed here as finality or as a possibility; to know whether the best of his capabilities have been discovered or there are ‘opportunities for improvement; to begin to realize that the world is full of challenges.
5.          That as a human being, there are some unavoidable situations in life,
6.          Failure is never an option until the individual begins to shift responsibilities to somebody else outside himself. The individual must consider himself solely responsible for his problems.
7.          However, when he begins to shift responsibilities to somebody else, failure stares him in the face. That is why every excuse is always a part of the problem. You are your own sole-proprietor; therefore, your responsibility can never be placed on somebody outside yourself.
8.          Whatever you want to be in life should be your responsibility. Do not place it on somebody outside yourself for that is where failure takes its origin.
9.          A man who targets or makes projections based on someone outside himself has no estimation of life because his responsibility is placed outside himself and he cannot assess the capabilities of the person he has placed his responsibility upon.
10.      Comparative analysis requires the individual to make reasonable comparison between merits and demerits of his capabilities. Here is an illustration to explain what I mean by comparative analysis.
11.      A motor mechanic automatically is a driver, but a driver is not necessarily a mechanic. So a man of such double prospects must consider which of his potentials and capabilities to develop.
12.      Being a mechanic affords him the opportunity of owning a workshop, having apprentices, having steady customers, selling spare-parts, dealing in cars, and limits his chances of road accidents besides earning a decent living.
13.      On the other hand, opting for driving increases his chances of road accident. At each time the vehicle is broken down, he is stranded, until the owner decides to put it back on the road. Worst still, he is only being used to build someone else. Now by comparative analysis he discovers what profession has an edge over the other.
14.      For every human being to succeed in life, he must have a period of capacity building. This is a sort of insurance or capital asset. This is applicable in all forms of businesses and professions.
15.      A medical doctor, for instance, needs to have enough equipment to help him face the challenges of every hospital. Then he needs to build confidence in lots and lots of patients through government hospitals so that once he moves away to establish on his own, he sweeps along a large chunk of patients with him.
16.      That is capacity building. If he jumps from youth service to open a clinic and begins to wear stethoscope, he is building on sinking sand.
17.      Self-control helps one to resist the urge or temptation to jump into the unknown without proper preparation; without comparative analysis. You should compare and analyze to know where you are properly fitted; else you become jack of all trades and a master of none.
18.      Whatever cannot sustain your future is not worth doing. Self-control will always help a man to address the reality. It moves man from the dreamy world with limited opportunities into the real world full of opportunities.
19.      The end of one road marks the beginning of another for him. He does not panic nor believe in self-defeatism. He does not see the collapse of his business or means of livelihood as failure, rather, it creates opportunity for him to recognise and discover better ways ahead.
20.      That is why I believe that man extremisms is God’s opportunity. Man’s weakness is God’s opportunity.
21.      Do not write yourself off for that is fatalistic. There are many potentials and capabilities in you which you may not know how to build up simply because you do not want to or you have not recognised the necessity to do so.
22.      The major reason people find it very difficult to build capacity is because they always place their responsibilities outside themselves. They fix their eyes on someone who will help them even when they have not made any move. Help does not come until you have stepped out.
23.      How can you fold your arms and expect help? Helping you out of what?
24.      Another reason is that they expect help in form of money only, because it affords them the opportunity to waste it since they did not labour to get it. It is foolishness to give money to a beast. What he needs is training.
25.      A beast needs to be tamed. First, transform a beast from a miniature human being to a human being then equip him.
26.      One who has not harnessed himself is like a woman that does not know the meaning of marriage before plunging into it. The first thing she requests after marriage is a house-help or a housemaid, which she automatically transfers her responsibility to, and the result is a filthy, unorganised home.
27.      She lacks self-control, which should have led her into organising herself, and then face the responsibility before her as a wife vested with the whole responsibility of the home as the sole proprietress of the family and not placing it on somebody else.
28.      She has no excuse for any shortcomings, because every excuse is a part of the problem. When the damage is done, the blame is where it should be no matter how she tries to shift it to the housemaid. The conscience knows where the blame is.
29.      The first step to becoming responsible lies in organising one’s self; taking out time to have: a comparative analysis of one’s capabilities.
30.      Analyse and compare things you know you can achieve as a human being without depending on somebody’s else. The moment you have your eyes on somebody who can help you when you fail, that is the instant you will fail without rising up.
31.      Any man that is depending on his fellow man cannot achieve anything. He only learns hostility ignorantly because any time the help stops; he automatically becomes hostile; forgetting all the good things that have been done for him in the past.
32.      A man that depends on his fellow man belittles himself, destroys his future, damages his potentialities, and renders himself redundant.

CHAPTER 5
CONCLUSION
A man without self-control is a man without ideology. He is only depending on the opinion of others because he is not the owner of himself, he does not own his conscience, he is not the owner of his character, he is not organized, and he is not harnessed.
2.          In conclusion, I am stressing that self-control is such a powerful instrument at our disposal by which we can disarm our enemies and put them to a stand still, subjecting them to apologetic conditions.
3.          It makes one superior over his fellows; a feat money cannot achieve. Nevertheless, if it is not developed, all circumstances will swallow up the individual like tidal waves.
4.          How can one be a creator of circumstances if he cannot control himself, emotions, and impulses?
5.          The individual who has control over all these things can create an atmosphere around himself where he dwells alone.
6.          Now that we have known the advantages of self-control, we are in a better position to covet it as a means of advancement.
7.          Remember, self-control is not an end in itself, but a means to an end. We cannot jump it and achieve anything.
8.          Before we can speak on our skills of interactions, and understand our various skills, self-control must have been achieved.
9.          If this is not done, no matter how one understands the various human behaviours, he is bound to react openly or within himself, and there can never be action within without a change outside.
10.      This is a simple message, but do not allow the simplicity to make it of non-effect. Imbibe and inculcate it in you.
11.      Remain Blessed in Him Eternally.















Section Two
TEMPER AND PRIDE:
OBSTACLES TO HUMAN DEVELOPMENT

CHAPTER 1
INTRODUCTION
When a woman is born, a nation is born. At the same time, train a woman and you train a nation, because the first teacher that teaches a human being is the mother.
2.          For that reason, the development of the human race is entrusted into the hands of women. The first training children receive starts from their mother and there is no adulthood without childhood.
3.          Too many people head towards failure by their inabilities to accept the challenges before them. Some have not even recognized these challenges at all. If I am asked to develop a family or a nation, I will develop the individuals.
4.          When the human beings that make up a family or nation are developed, that family or nation is developed. Building of skyscrapers and gigantic structures does not develop the individual. No man has ever been remembered for the structures or industries he built.
5.          Nnamdi Azikiwe of Anambra State of Nigeria, for instance, will forever be remembered, not for a structure or any industry he built, but for the development of the human individuals. He developed their senses of reasoning; he widened their understanding and their horizon.
6.          Then they began to see life from a different perspective away from the primitive perspective, which ended at looking at life from the capitalist angle — once a man has money that is all it takes to be a human being, but money is not all it takes to be a human being.
7.          A man that grows in stature but does not develop mentally is not a human being. Seeing him physically, he is a human being in the sense that he can talk, eat, and do some menial jobs, but he is not developed so as to reason intelligently.
8.          He is not developed so as to recognize himself and the enormous challenges before him. In other words, he is not developed to recongnise and face his responsibilities.
9.          An undeveloped man is a man without responsibilities. The Individual has to be developed so as to recognize, accept, and face his responsibilities.








CHAPTER 2
CIRCUMSTANCES REVEAL WHO YOU ARE
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ircumstances do not make you what you are, but only reveals who you are, what stuff you are made up of, whether you are developed, underdeveloped or an imbecile. 
2.          Many people keep saying they are victims of circumstances. Whether a victim or a victor, it takes circumstances to reveal an individual.
3.          However, when circumstances reveal who you are, have you developed to the extent of recognizing yourself through the circumstances?
4.          For example, a man may think he has controlled his temper so much that he cannot make any mistake by responding to some impulses or reflexes then he suddenly finds himself in an embittered situation.
5.          Voices are raised, muscles are flexed, and before he realizes himself, he hits his opponent, only to turn round and begin to feel remorseful and surprised that such a thing still exists in him.
6.          That situation is a circumstance that has revealed who he is and what he is made up of. That condition did not make him what he is but only revealed and exposed him.
7.          I am developing individuals intending that the nation of God that is entrusted into my care will be strengthened all-round to be over-comers in all challenges, because the extent an individual can achieve victory, triumph, and success in this life depends on the extent of his mental and spiritual development.
8.          A mentally and spiritually retarded person is always a victim of circumstances.  


CHAPTER 3
IDENTIFY YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
A man who escapes a fatal accident hardly remembers his wife or child in the same vehicle. Before he remembers them, he must have escaped. Sometimes these things are done by impulse or reflex action.
2.          The person did not know when he acted. He did it unconsciously. That is why sometimes someone escapes an inferno unconsciously, but immediately he regains his consciousness, he realizes he has someone trapped in there, he returns to save the person, and dies in the process.
3.          He escapes unconsciously and dies consciously. Why? He is mentally and spiritually retarded. He has not developed himself to the point of valuing his life; therefore, he resigns his life.
4.          He sees himself as a mere stakeholder and not a proprietor of his own life and so he died. He earned no credit because he has passed away. A dead man has no credit.
5.          An individual that is not well developed does not know the separation line between his responsibilities and other’s responsibilities. The point being made here is this: develop yourself first. Be mentally alert then you will succeed so as to be in a better position to help others.
6.          It is the responsibility that awaits human being that put him into desperation. When there is no responsibility, there is no desperation.
7.          Development of the individual is very essential, and there are things to avoid while we are trying to develop ourselves. He who never walks except when he sees other men’s tracks will never make any new discovery in life.
8.          If you are treading on already established path, you can never make any way forward. For every dispensation, there must be a new revelation.
9.          What is contained herein is a revelation of your dispensation. Your fathers never knew of it. People living in your day are blind to it. It is more than church message.
10.      Church message only hangs your destiny on your faith and ask you to fast and pray in Jesus name, then they collect the little you have from you. People are foolish.
11.      Pastors and General Superintendents collect money from them but tell them to go and fast and pray to God to give them money. The overseers get money from the congregation but the congregation should look unto the Lord who will provide.
12.      The Lord has never given any of the overseers’ money. They only brag about with money they collected from their congregations.
13.      I do not indulge in fooling the ears and hearts of people. What I give is far above mere church message and it is free. God weighs a man’s heart but man weighs the outward appearance.
14.      The worth of a man is not in his height or stature. He might be a giant, but empty- headed and spiritually empty. You can never know the power of God and the potentiality which God has entrusted to your care until you have attempted an impossible which others have tried and failed.
15.      Notice that the crowd never follows those who follow the crowd. The lesson to be learnt from that is this: are those you are dying for worth dying for? Those whose welfare deprives you of your basic needs; whose welfare you have placed first as your foremost responsibility to the neglect of your own immediate responsibilities are they worth dying for?
16.      Can they protect your interest or are they using you to achieve their goals? A man who is not developed mentally and spiritually will always fall victim of dying for the welfare of those who are not interested in him.
17.      This is a hard statement. Anything worth doing, any life worth living, is worth dying for.
18.      Sometimes, because of our mental underdevelopment, we can hardly notice when someone is using us to achieve his goal, especially when our relations are involved.
19.      Your relations may exploit you to your own detriment to achieve their goals. They simply cash in on your stupidity and undeveloped mind.
20.      They capitalize on that and those are the very people that will sing your funeral oration.
21.      Every true seed of God must always strive to develop himself by taking in the words of God which is able to raise his awareness and expand his vision so as to recognize and accept his personal responsibilities which are nobody’s else.
22.      It takes a foolish man to accept another man’s responsibilities. The highest favour to show a man is to develop his mentality to recognize and face his own responsibilities but do not add his responsibilities to yours.
23.      Anyone who recognizes his mistake but refuses to correct it, and rather continues in it, has made double mistake. Discovering your mistake is a sign of victory, but the victory is not real until correction is effected.
24.      A mirror only shows the pimple on your face, but you will have to remove it yourself. The Lord will reveal your problems through His word and show you the way out but will not force it on you.
25.      It is expected of you to put it in practice so as to derive the rich benefits thereof.
Many people simply practice once and withdraw; but a wise man does not retreat even in the face of difficulties.
He advances whether the conditions are favourable or not; for he has the potentials to create favourable conditions around a situation, therefore, he does not have room for excuses for any shortcoming.



CHAPTER 4
TEMPER AND PRIDE
Temper and pride are great obstacles to human development. Temper is haughtiness. A hot- tempered person is also full of pride. Equally, a proud person, full of himself, is also hot-tempered. He feels he is a repository of all knowledge — “Mr Know-All” or “Mrs Know-All”.
2.          There are certain situations that call for tolerance, especially when conflict arises. I have come to the realization that whosoever manifests tolerance in time of conflict soon develops it as a character.
3.          Your wealth is your character. Your integrity is your character. Your character earns you respect and not your money or material possessions.
4.          You may have a gigantic building or lots of money to fill the whole world but you have no respect and no integrity.
5.          Your character is useless because once character is lost, your individual is gone. So character makes an individual.
6.          Any man with temper and pride can never develop mentally and spiritually. He is full of excuses, and excuse is first step to failure.
7.          Show me a man or woman whose mouth is full of excuses, and I will show you a failure. It is easier to say you do not believe in failure but as long as you believe in excuses you are a failure yourself.
8.          The moment temper is high, understanding is snapped, and the voice of reasoning stops. Even if the Almighty will descend, it is useless to the individual because his temper has risen above understanding, tolerance, and reasoning, as a result, development stops. For that reason, the first step in developing one’s self lies in controlling the temper.
9.          A hot-tempered human being can never admit his mistake until disaster is wrecked. Only then will temper calm down and give way to regret. Remember, temper and pride is a big obstacle to human development.
10.      When exchanging opinions or ideas with someone and your temper is on the rise, you gain nothing from the other side; knowledge is impaired. You are limited to that which you have.
11.      Nobody is a repository of all knowledge. At a point you think your knowledge is enough that is where somebody calls you a self-deceived fool. Women should take particular note of this.
12.      I have earlier said: train a woman, and a nation is trained.
13.      It is true that God bestowed the bile in every human. The essence of the bile is not to stimulate you into anger. It is a regulatory instrument in the body, which helps it to function very well.
14.      With humility and quietness coupled with friendly attitude, opposing parties can listen to explanations and understand each other, but temper will not give room for any audience hence, it impairs communication.
15.      It throws people apart even before the actual problem is identified. It mars and renders a good case useless. No one pays any attention to the case because your approach is very wrong.
16.      That is why a man or a woman who cannot control his or her temper is a beast or a trouble-maker.
17.      If we can bring our tempers under control, to check pride becomes very easy because temper and ice goes together.
18.      A hot-tempered person finds it difficult to tender apology. “I am sorry” is too far from that person. Even when he says it, it is hypocritical. He does not mean it because there is pride in him.
19.      Pride inhibits us from openly expressing our affairs to one another. It causes us to feel inferior if we should humble ourselves before each other. Let us adopt a humble attitude because without humility, we cannot express ourselves in truth to each other.
20.      There is an adage that says pride goes before a fall. Show me the person that makes the greatest mistake in life, and I will show you a man or woman with hot temper filled with pride. These two go together.
21.      Some people misconstrue pride to mean gorgeousness. Pride is a matter of the heart.
22.      The person may not have anything that life entails. He may not have money, material possessions, or education, but he lacks humility. Whoever that lacks humility is proud. You cannot be humble and proud. The two can never go together.
23.      A proud fellow feels that he is the highest of all in knowledge, outlook, and in everything. Hence, he does not admit mistakes nor accept corrections, and finds it difficult to say “I am sorry” from his heart.
24.       Puffed up with pride, he has an excuse for every reasonable suggestion offered by anyone else; his ideas must be the best.
25.      Any man whose idea is always the best arrives at nothing; he achieves nothing because he does not see any other person’s view but his own. He has caged himself.
26.      In a family, the man may have reasonable ideas to share but the antagonistic and hostile attitude of the wife sometimes, may force those precious ideas back into the man. He may become dumb only to avoid tempers rising.
27.      In such situations, can that family move forward or be developed? In the same vein, the woman may have good ideas to share but the man is not tolerant.
28.      The man backs only his own ideas because he feels paying attention to his wife means belittling himself, or his wife leading him. For that reason, he develops that hostile attitude as a result of pride. Any attempt to correct such a man will cause tempers to rise.
29.      In such a situation, if the wife is wise she will keep still. However, if she is foolish, she will follow the man after his foolishness.
30.      The best answer to a foolish question is quietness, and the best reply to hot temper is quietness because the more you speak, the more the tempers rise, and the more foolish you sound. Your wisdom is foolishness at such times because your tempers are high.











CHAPTER 5
CONCLUSION
As I bring this message on’ temper and pride to a close, I urge you to narrow it down to yourself. Can temper and pride be traced in you? Remember, circumstances will not make you what you are but will only reveal what you are.
2.          So you have no excuse to give for whatever your present condition is. Nothing is responsible for it but yourself. You are your own problem.
3.          A man that has temper and pride enjoys it simply because he wants them to be in him to suppress and intimidate his fellow man. Temper and pride can never give room for apologies.
4.          They cause great hurts to our loved ones beyond measure, and never allow us to say we are sorry.
5.          The purpose they serve is not useful, nor helps in human development; rather, it retards development, and causes self-conceitedness.
6.          That goes to show these things work against the Individual. What then should be the right attitude towards them? Stamp them out of your program.
7.          Delete and erase them completely from your heart or hard disc, for the heart of a man is the living computer. The information fed into the heart IS what it takes.
8.          That is why those that wrote the Bible said the heart is desperately wicked. Who can know it?
9.          To what extent are we ready to humble ourselves so that these messages will become useful to our lives? Is there any virtue in temper? Is there any virtue in pride?
10.      These two things can shatter a family because it puts the couples at two extremes of life. They may still dine together and go to bed as man and woman, yet the bed can never effect reconciliation because temper and pride still exist in that family. It has to take the Almighty God to effect reconciliation. E
11.      very home where these two problems exist can hardly experience real happiness, joy, mutual understanding, and effective communication.
12.      A person filled with temper and pride hardly sees anything good in anyone else. He is the only holy and right person on earth; to him every other person is heading towards destruction.
13.      He cannot render any help, for a self-conceited man can never help anyone. A man can easily see evil in someone else but hardly notices any in himself. Can you see that which is wrong in you? How do you address it?
14.      Remain blessed in Him Eternally.

















PRIME MOVERS
Containing the Messages:

EDUCATION: THE SHORTEST CUT TO ERADICATE POVERTY AND IGNORANCE

COURAGE AS A TONIC

SUPREME LOVE










EDUCATION:
THE SHORTEST CUT TO ERADICATE
POVERTY AND IGNORANCE
INTRODUCTION
Education is enlightenment of mind. An educated fellow is an enlightened fellow. An uneducated fellow gropes in the dark. He is enveloped in the dark, making a trial of life, but not living the life.
2.          Education is a treasure. The only treasure that is personalized is education.
3.          Children should pay particular attention to this as I point out the importance of education. Cast your mind back to your parents and try to discover why they are what they are today.
4.          Do they have no regrets? Do they not speak ruefully of their mates who were educated by their parents, and attained great heights? Whatever one is today, hinges on the foundation his parents laid.
5.          Instances abound of parents who laid good foundations for their children. A prominent politician who studied abroad and became the Speaker of Imo State House of Assembly of the former eastern region is one of such examples.
6.          He has laid a good foundation for his children; therefore poverty can never be associated with his family for generations to come. His son who is a Senior Advocate of Nigeria is vying for a senatorial seat.
7.          Another example is the former Speaker of Imo State House of Assembly who is an age mate of a relation of mine. They studied in the same school and graduated the same year.
8.          While this relation of mine was still purposeless, having no base, the man in question as a lawyer had already become the Speaker of Imo State House of Assembly. He has laid a foundation. If this relation of mine becomes a politician now, he cannot be a speaker because of his low level in academic education.
9.          He could not go beyond the peripherals of academics because of the choice he made for himself. He had people who could afford to train him academically but he preferred trading to academic education.
10.      What the young lawyer attained during the period he spent in the secondary school, university, youth service, and in the law school, before he became a speaker, his father did not attain for the period of ninety-five years he lived. However, he has indirectly attained it by training his son. That is a very nice investment with long-term reward.
11.      Ignorance is a self-inflicted injury. Education is very essential if poverty is to be properly addressed. Even traders need education. The life style of an educated trader is different from an illiterate one.
12.      An educated trader engages in enlightened business — he makes projections and achieves results. His education helps him have an organized life and family.
13.      It is needless reminding him of the necessity of training his children because he is educated and knows the importance thereof.
14.      On the contrary, the best an illiterate trader can do is to initiate his son to his business with a sum of money, and give another of his sons a warehouse — that is the much he knows.
15.      If queried, he will say, “What does the boy need? After all, I have a house; I have vehicles, as if those are his sole aim in life.
16.      When asked what profession they have, some traders who cannot even attain success in trading — who live from hand to mouth — will say they are businessmen. Having such mentality makes foolishness and ignorance run in one’s blood.
17.      Foolishness and an uneducated fellow are inseparable, his riches notwithstanding. It flows in his blood and runs through his lineage. The only way to regenerate his lineage is to regenerate their mentality through education.
18.      Without academic education, every person must follow suit in his parents’ ignorance. Enlightenment causes one to discover his parents’ fault. Any child denied of a higher level of education than his parents attained has been placed on the same level as his parents. He can never achieve greater feats than his parents.
19.      An uneducated businessman engages in trial and error. He is merely trying his luck.
20.      An educated fellow does not indulge in such guessing games. He is always objective. He plans his work and business. He makes projections and draws budgets. He is more focused than a plan-less man who only looks at profit from the cash at hand.
21.      An Illiterate count on cash at hand but an educated fellow counts on capital cost, for the worth of a trader is not the cash at hand but the capital asset.
EXPLOITATION
22.      Education is the shortest cut to eradication of ignorance. An illiterate is a slave to the society. Everyone enslaves him because he knows not his rights and privileges. He is merely a public servant at the mercy of the public. He has no decision of his own because he is a stack illiterate.
23.      An uneducated fellow is always exploited. He makes people great but makes himself poor because he is ignorant. He is used as a stepping stone to greatness yet remains very poor.
24.      A driver who has no vehicle of his own, labours only to get his daily bread while building up someone else. On the agreed time or day, he delivers the account to the owner who hopes to buy more vehicles using the driver’s labour.
25.      The driver is impoverished daily while using up his strength and wearying himself to make his boss succeed. Finally, he is left with nothing to offer but his strength and health is sapped, and his energy is finished.
26.      Someone else has been built at his expense. This is exploitation!
27.      Menial and ignoble jobs that cannot sustain their family are the resort of the uneducated. Typically, an illiterate is employed  in a factory.
28.      He works daily from 6 o’clock in the morning to 6 o’clock in the evening. He is paid a wage of about Three Thousand Five Hundred Naira at the end of the month — and that is being generous.
29.      Another illiterate who may have a nomenclature of a supervisor or technician takes home Five Thousand Naira monthly.
30.      When and how long will he save enough money to meet the challenge of life? His fellow man uses him to build himself while sapping his strength and health as he works under the worst conditions. How then can poverty be eradicated from him?
31.      Besides, as he labours, he sees educated young ones in the same factory, who work for only eight hours in air-conditioned offices, receive about Thirty Thousand Naira monthly. What could be responsible for this? 
32.      The labourer is exploited; very low, yet he knows not because he is not educated! What then can he achieve in life? He dreams of being great in the society; he wants to build his own factory, to be like the managing director but how and when would these dreams fulfill? Not even in the next world!
INFERIORITY COMPLEX
33.      Parents, who neglect the training of their children, leave them no option than the above scenario. An uneducated mind is inferior. An uneducated fellow is never free from inferiority complex.
34.      He dares not show his presence at certain concourse for fear of disgrace. His money or smartness cannot quality him to be there. He lacks enlightenment therefore he is a misfit.
35.      Education makes one bold. A bold person goes for what he needs. No one dictates to him his needs. An illiterate has no bargaining power. He accepts whatever is offered him.
36.      An educated fellow who is proficient in his skill and knows his worth, places the card on the table when it comes to negotiation.
37.      Disagreement to his terms means nothing to an educated fellow because he knows he is needed somewhere else. He is never beggarly because he is enlightened.
38.      Uneducated people, who dabble into businesses that eventually collapse, return back to their homes and villages.
39.      To them, everything has crumbled. However, educated person knows that a business may collapse but his certificate will never collapse. He will ever be proud to say, “The end of one road marks the beginning of another.”
40.      Most people who run down neighbouring countries worse than Nigeria are school dropouts and nonentities. Some of them whose businesses collapsed and had nothing else to do, rush out there to steal, dupe, or engage in drug peddling.
41.      Youths should be wary when they see the prosperity of the wicked who indulge in drug pushing. Do not be tempted nor give in to the temptation.
42.      The devil only presents one who has become a millionaire through drug peddling but will never show those who died in their attempt to push drugs.
43.      Anyone attracted by this so-called success in illegal businesses is not educated! He who is not educated instantly loses confidence in himself and always writes himself off. Nothing is possible to a man who is not educated, but to an educated fellow, everything is possible. He knows how to go about it. If plan “A” does not work, plan “B” will certainly work.
44.      An uneducated person always feels cheated, even in marital issues. He is in trouble because he gambles even in his marriage.
ICONS
45.      Periodicals and newspapers are dotted with news about people we call icons. People like Dr. Mrs. Ibru, a finance guru, banking icon, CEO Oceanic Bank International; Chief Dr. Mrs. Dora Akunyili (OSR), a renowned pharmacists and the NAFDAC Director; Ngozi Okonjo Iweala, an international figure; Mrs. Ezekwesili, the Honourable Minister of Solid Minerals, etc. Such are people to emulate.
46.      Dream of achieving higher than they did. The individual must challenge himself with such visions and goals. However, whether he will achieve them or not depends largely on the character he forms.
47.      A life that is patterned in opposition to ones ambition must surely lead to failure.
48.      When we read the profile of such people as the Vice-Chancellor of the University of Nigeria, Nsukka (UNN), do we not begin to desire academic education?
49.      Do we not begin to cherish the integrity of attaining great heights in education? Without education, no one is appointed a public office where his impact will be felt by the society.
50.      Attaining great heights depends on education. No one prefers poverty to wealth, yet there is no shorter-cut to avert poverty and ignorance than education.
51.      Our parents remained poor, peasant farmers because no one availed them the opportunity of education. This affected us for since they were not educated, they did not know the value of education. They preferred merrymaking and marrying many wives to training us.
52.      Here is an example. A billionaire refused to train any of his children in school. His idea is that all his children should follow in his footsteps from driving to trading. He is married to six wives because he is a stack illiterate. He has picked the seventh one at the age of about eighty-six.
53.      Unreasonable and uneducated ladies who know nothing but money, who love old men, accept such marriage proposals not based on love but money.
54.      An educated person makes good choice of a wife because he is enlightened and that helps him go for what he needs not what he wants. Nothing influences a man more than his need.
55.      The age a lady attains is insignificant until she gets what she needs— her choice of a man, because she is very confident that by and large she must get married.
56.      Only uneducated people marry anyhow. It is due to illiteracy that some of our parents compelled their daughters to marry contrary to their wishes. What could be responsible for threatening to behead a girl for refusing to marry a man her parent’s choice? It is stupidity!
57.      Poverty could also compel parents to give out their daughters in marriage to people that are not their choice, putting them to perpetual bondage.
58.      An enlightened fellow, who is educated and knows what he needs, goes for it. He does not settle for anything less the time taken to get it notwithstanding. After all, success does not come easy.
Conclusion
59.      The shortest cut to eradicate poverty and ignorance lies in academic education. Therefore, it is expedient for parents to encourage their wards and challenge them with the lives of successful men and women in the society.
60.      No one attains greatness or makes a positive impact in the society while an illiterate. That is the very reason industrialists may have money yet make no impact in the society.
61.      The best they can do is donating money to charitable organizations. They cannot make any Positive contribution to the growth of the economy; rather they exploit and discourage power because of stark illiteracy.
62.      Where is the attention of our children wards directed? Some parents who do not know the value of education allow their children to engage in trading. Trading is good only if one attains his height in education so as to transact his business as he wishes.
63.      Some parents do not know the value of qualitative education. They simply dump their children in public schools where the fees are minimal. What will such children be like in future? Schools children attend have a lot to do in their lives. Children given public orientation should not be blamed if they fail.
64.      It is unfortunate that parents have money for every other thing but when it comes to educating their children, they give excuses.
65.      This is due to illiteracy. It is an act of an ignorant fellow who transfers poverty to his children and that is why the society is growing from bad to worse.
66.      Finally, a youth should ponder over his paths: where am I heading and why? What am I doing now and why am I doing it? Where do I want to go from here and why?
67.      Remain Blessed in Him Eternally.












Section 2
COURAGE AS A TONIC















CHAPTER 1
COURAGE AS A TONIC
INTRODUCTION
All the messages I have handed down so far are tried and tested truths containing facts of life, but that is not all. Its rich benefits come only to those who develop courage to put the messages into action.
2.          The messages present ways one can come out of his doldrums and succeed iii life. They remain as knowledge until action is taken. Studying the messages is one thing, implementing the message is another.
3.          The fear of implementing it stems from lack of courage.
4.          Lack of courage is a hindrance to success. No matter what area of man’s life is touched, no matter what weakness is revealed, he still needs courage to put the messages into action.
5.          Courage is one’s ability to face challenges without being afraid of failure or defeat. It can be likened to a vehicle’s battery.
6.          No matter how well a vehicle’s engine is coupled, no matter how new the parts are, the engine is useless without the battery. An entirely new engine is still useless without that little part. The battery gives life to the engine. It provides the initial energy, ‘the take off energy.
7.          That little gadget activates the dynamics in the engine. I have assembled all the mechanical parts by the messages I handed down so far. The dynamics that will activate those mechanical parts is courage.
8.          Man has great potentials in him, which when developed, gives him a happier and more fulfilled life. Yet, lack of courage, fear of the unknown and fear of what people may say has always been the bane of the society.
9.          Many people know what is good and proper for themselves, but their problem have always been the fear of being misunderstood. They are set to please others even when it means displeasing themselves.
10.      Anyone who listens to people’s opinion never succeeds. Anyone who folds his arms lest he is called a money monger will remain poor till eternity. Such persons do not know what they need. As long as life exists, human beings are bound to say something.
11.      However, the most important voice that speaks is the voice of one’s mind. Sometimes figments of imagination weigh down the individual and causes loss of courage. The greatest obstacle before man is himself.
12.      Many people do not know who their enemies are! When faced with a challenge the individual should note whose opinion he is afraid of and those who express displeasure over actions taken to guarantee his happiness and give his family a sense of belonging. Such persons are only happy at his failure. These are his very enemies.
13.      Oftentimes people patronize their enemies. They try to make people happy at the expense of their joy for lack of courage to bear differing opinions. This has caused hindrance to attaining fuller success in life.
14.      The individual must develop courage within himself enough to say, “If my happiness offends the world, let them be offended.” This is the decision of life. A step to failure starts by paying attention to people’s opinion and trying to please everybody. It is impossible to win everyone’s love.
15.      A childless man who desires children, for instance, needs courage to take another wife. If he considers the reaction of his wife, laws, or neighbours, then even at seventy he will never have children but console himself with unreasonable Bible beliefs. This is hard to believe but it is true.
16.      One’s ability to ignore people’s opinion, or reaction and do that which God requires leads to success. Stop seeking popular acceptance. Accept yourself! Stop rejecting yourself and that is all you need.
SELF-DEFEATISM
17.      Where there is no courage, there is no advancement or improvement. A man may wish to rent a house, but fears future payments. He has defeated himself because he lacks courage. He lacks willpower. This attitude is self-defeatism.
18.      An executive who fears risks will soon watch his business crumble. He that counts failures never invests in business. Fear of the unknown pins him down. Courage is the ability to move from the known to the unknown.
19.      That which is known today was unknown yesterday or yesteryears. Lack of courage makes people static in life.
DEVELOP COURAGE
20.      The first step to developing courage is to resist every external voice that is against one’s noble idea. An enemy is one who says, “It won’t work” to your noble ideas. He points to people who have failed but not those who have succeeded. Do not confer with such people.
21.      Nothing is difficult but the approach matters. A wise man does not accept the failures of others until he has tried it himself perhaps ne may succeed and discover why others failed.
22.      The second step in developing courage is consulting like-minded fellows. For instance, one who wishes to buy a car should not consult someone who is comfortable with owning a bicycle, for he will only recommend a bicycle.
23.      The individual is his own best friend as far as success is concerned. He has nothing to do with people who are afraid of success if he must succeed in life, because they have nothing to offer him.
24.      Anyone who wants to further his studies should flow with someone of the same ambition. Consulting one who has come to the end of his ambition will only generate discouragement.
25.      One’s objective in life brings about courage. A student who is determined to be a graduate does not relent his efforts until he passes the prescribed examination because he is focused. He is never afraid of failure. If he fails, he is never ashamed but keeps trying until he sails through. Without courage, he will be demoralized.
26.      Courage is preparing one’s self for the worst while hoping for the best.
27.      Being focused on the result of success develops courage. The individual must evaluate within himself, “If I succeed, this is where I will be tomorrow.
28.      My success in education will take me to a higher height, it will give me a standing in the society. Therefore, I am never ashamed of failure. I will never relent my effort until I achieve my goal.”


SACRIFICE
29.      Where there is no courage, there is no sacrifice and where there is no sacrifice there is no success. One who considers the cost of training his children in good schools always forfeits the quality of his children’s education.
30.      A wise man considers the advantage, convenience and the long-term reward while the foolish considers cost.
31.      Believe it if you can, the training of children is a long-term investment. This does not make one poor rather it increases responsibility. Nothing disciplines a man more than his responsibilities.
32.      Conversely, no one is as useless as a man without responsibilities. Show me one without responsibilities or one who avoids his or her responsibilities by not recognizing them and I will show you one who lives an empty and useless life.

UPDATE YOURSELF
33.      People trail behind the present age because they fail to update themselves for lack of courage.
34.      Lack of courage is responsible for the increasing number of dropouts in the society. One who runs from pillar to post, smuggling himself from one country to the other must have lost courage in life.
35.      One who carries a weapon to harass innocent, hard working people, robbing them of their belongings must have lost courage. These become useless fellows to the society because they lack the courage to face the realities of life; therefore, they volunteer to die anywhere and anytime.
36.      There are many outdated professions. Gone are the days when blacksmiths succeeded. This occupation cannot sustain anyone today.
37.      The world is advancing and a lot of professions are becoming obsolete. It takes courage for anyone who finds himself in such expired occupations to update himself.
38.      One who lacks courage examines himself daily but remains the same forever. However, with courage, few years of sacrifice rewrites one’s records for the better.
39.      On the other hand, remaining static due to pride, people’s opinion, or lack of courage to brace up to challenges, makes one beggarly.
CONCLUSION
40.      Courage is needed as a mobilizer in other to reap the rich benefits of these messages. This is applicable to every other sphere of life.
41.      Courage is required to implement the messages “Self Control”, “Refrain Your Tongue From Evil and Be Perfect Before God”, “Worry, A Hidden Killer’ “The Greatness of Simplicity” etc.
42.      On a final note, I tell you a mystery: when one succeeds, he is worshiped. His enemies will turn around and bow to him, but when he fails, he becomes the talk of the day.
43.      However, on the way to success there are no friends, brothers, or sisters because the road is very rough. Why not develop courage now and excel?
44.      Remain Blessed in Him eternally.








Section 3
SUPREME LOVE
















SUPREME LOVE
True love is not typified by an alms box. The benevolence of a chequebook does not meet all the wants of humanity. Giving food, clothing and money to the poor and needy is only the beginning, the kindergarten class of real love.
2.          Love has higher, purer forms of manifestations. Love is but an instructive, corrective and appreciative reaching out for justice and equity in life.
3.          Love seeks to smooth down the rough places of living, to bridge the chasms of human sin and folly, to feed the heart hungry, to give strength to the struggling, to be tender with human weaknesses and greatest of all, it means obeying the Divine Injunctions: JUDGE NOT, DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM DO UNTO YOU.
4.          The true symbol of the greatest love is the scales of judgment held in high, suspended from the hand of justice.
5.          The magic imagination of the genius of the writer that proof reader is busy watching all inverted commas, wrong spacing or a wrong font letter just like many who are always busy to detect all grammatical blunders each time a message is being preached.
6.          The proof-reader has an eye trained for the imperfections, the weaknesses. Men who pride themselves on being shrewd in discovering the weak points, the vanity, dishonesty, immorality, intrigue and pettiness of others think they understand character; they know only part of character; they know only the depths to which some people may smile but they know not the heights to which some people may rise.
7.          An optimist is one who has succeeded in associating with humanity without being a critic. We do not see the target a man aims at in life but we only see the target he hits.
8.          We judge from results and imagine infinity of motives that we say or conclude must have been in his mind. No human being since the creation of the world has been able to live a life so pure and noble as to exempt him from the misjudgement of those around him. It is impossible to get anything whatever but a distorted image from a convex or a concave mirror.
9.          If misfortune comes to someone, people are prone to say, “it is God’s judgment upon him.” How do they know? Have they been eavesdropping at the door of Paradise? When sorrow and failure comes to us, we regard them as misdirected packages that should have been delivered elsewhere. We do too much watching of our neighbour’s garden and too little watching in our own farm.
10.      Beetles have been picked up at sea thousands of miles from the point where they have been cast into the waters. They have been the sport of wind and waters; carried along by ocean currents, they have reached a destination undreamed of.
11.      Our flippant, careless words of judgment of the character of someone, words lightly and perhaps innocently spoken, may be carried by unknown and unseen currents, waves, and bring sorrow, misery, pain and shame to the innocent.
12.      A cruel smile, a shrug of the shoulders or a cleverly eloquent silence may ruin in a moment the reputation a man or woman has been building for years. It is as a single motion of the hand may destroy the delicate geometry of a spider’s web, spun from its own body and life, through all the united efforts of the universe could not put it back as it was.
13.      We do not need to judge nearly too much as we think we do. We are living in the age of sharp judgments. This habit is greatly intensified by the sensational press and electronic media.
14.      Barely twenty-four hours after a great murder is committed, there is difficulty in getting enough men and women who have not already formulated a judgment, to try the case. These people in most instances have read and accepted the garbled, highly coloured newspaper accounts; they have to their own satisfaction discovered the murderer, practically tried him and sentenced him.
15.      We hear readers of newspapers state their decisions with all his force and absoluteness of one who has had the whole Book of Life made ruminant and spread out before him just like the modern day gospel preachers that write judgments for Almighty God to declare against those who do not seem to believe or agree with them in their religious beliefs.
16.      Some of them even make dogmatic assertions concerning hell and heaven and even frame questions God will ask the disobedient ones that day. My question to such people is this; what if God does not feel it necessary to ask those pre-empted questions to the supposedly disobedient ones at the end?
17.      If there be one place in life where the attitude of the agnostic is beautiful, it is in this matter of judging others. It is the courage to say; “I do not know. I am waiting further evidence. I must hear from both sides of the question.
18.      Till then, I suspend all judgment.” It is this suspended judgment that forms the
SUPERLATIVE LOVE
19.      It is strange that in life, we recognize the right of every criminal to have a fair and open trail yet we condemn unheard our dear brethren, and sometimes our good friends around us on mere circumstantial evidence.
20.      We rely on the mere evidence of our senses, feelings, trust it implicitly, and even permit it to sweep away like a mighty tide, the faith that has been ours for year We see all life grow dark, hope sink before our eyes and the golden treasures of memory turn to cruel thoughts of loss to sting us with maddening pain.
21.      Our hasty judgments, that a few moments explanation would remove has entangled the brother, sister or friend of our life. If we be thus unjust to those we hold dear, what must be the cruel injustice of our judgment of others.
22.      We know nothing of the trials, sorrows and temptations of those around us, of pillows wet with sobs, of the life tragedy that may be hidden behind a smile, of the secret cares, struggles and works that shorten life and leave their mark in the hair prematurely withered, and in character changed and almost recreated in a few days.
23.      We say sometimes to one who seems calm and smiling, “You ought to be supremely happy; you have everything that the heart could wish.”
24.      It may be that at that very moment, the person is passing alone through some agony of sorrow where the teeth seem to bite into the lips in the attempt to keep feelings under control, when living seems a living death from which there is no relief Then these light flippant phrases jar upon us and we seem as isolated and separated from the rest of humanity as if we were living on another planet.
25.      Let us not dare to add to the burdens and sorrows of another person, the pain of our hasty judgments. If we would guard our lips from expressing, we must control our minds, we must stop this continued sitting in judgment on the acts of others even in our private places.
26.       Let us by daily exercises in self control learn to turn off the process of judging as we would turn out a light. Let us try to eliminate pride, passion, personal feelings, principles and pettiness from our minds and higher and purer emotions will rush in as air seeks to fill a vacuum.
27.      Love is not a formula; it is an atmosphere. Let us cultivate love in judging. Let us seek to draw our latent good in others rather than to discover hidden evil. It requires the eyes of love to see undeveloped butterfly in the caterpillar.
28.      Let us if we want to rise to the full glory of God the father of us all, to the destiny of true living, make for our watch word, the injunction of the Superlative Love, “JUDGE NOT AND DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM DO UNTO YOU.”
29.      If we maintain this standard in the Bride of Christ Ministry World-Wide, the world surely will see new creatures on earth.
30.      This is the last message I will give to you concerning love and am grateful to God who inspired me to put this message in writing.
31.      Remain blessed eternally in Him.